Question: My husband always asks me what I want for Christmas, I tell him to surprise me but he insists that I give him ideas (he says he's not good at surprises). Then he gets me something that I asked for...no surprises. How can I get him to surprise me, with something I would like? Answer: Well, as a husband myself, I can tell you, nothing is more nerve-racking than trying to find the perfect gift for your spouse. Yep, I said perfect gift. Why? Because when it comes to a spouse gift, there are no exceptions. No "so-so" gift. ... Read More ...

Let's say you're single. But not happy about it. You're tired of seeing everyone else fall in love. You want your piece of the pie. So, you're out there, looking for romance. It's not easy, either. How sure are you that you're looking in the right place? Maybe while you're busy trying to meet people at the laundromat, Mr. or Miss Right is at work. Think about it. Romance can come from anywhere. Finding it is the hardest game you'll ever play. And more often than not, it shows up where you're not looking for it. That can really suck. ... Read More ...

Well, it's bound to happen. Who hasn't wanted someone they work with? And how many of you have gone for it? And how many of you have succeeded? Dating at work is a challenge. It's tough. It's work. But, it happens all the time, and it's not a bad thing. For as scandalous as people try to make it, it's not much different than what we were taught our whole lives. Growing up, all the new and interesting people you met were at school. For up to 18 years, school IS your life. You start off eating and sleeping there. ... Read More ...

A lot of you want to turn your guy on. But, not everyone wants to talk about big, throbbing organs and things you'd only hear in a porn flick. You want it to be sensual as much as sexual. Heartfelt as much as horny. Romantic as much as randy. Luckily, you've got me. Well you don't actually have me, my fiancee does. But you've got my help. So, what do you say to drive a man wild without sounding cheesy, or like a sailor on shore leave? And how? Whisper. You know why they call 'em "sweet nothings"? Because you ... Read More ...

Historically, we guys have been made fun of, because sometimes all it takes is a shift in the breeze to get our motors going. And yes, by and large, we're more visual when it comes to getting turned on. But you've stumbled upon something that many women don't know. We like to be complimented, chased after, and once in a while, even leered at. What's in a guy's head? To quote Cheap Trick: "I want YOU to want ME!" So, here are 10 sure-fire ways to love and lust after your fella. Be specific. Don't go for the blanket statement ... Read More ...

When you get to your mid-20's, a funny thing starts to happen. Your friends start to change. They stop saying "I" and start saying "we." You get invited over on Sundays for brunch instead of for football. And they're buying artwork instead of posters. Yeah. They all start getting married. It's like a cult. Instead of handing out flowers at the airport, they're handing out florists' business cards and pictures of their receptions. You've rented more tuxedos or bought more bridesmaid dresses in the past year than you have in the past 10. Every weekend from Memorial Day to Halloween ... Read More ...

So, women ask me all the time: "What are guys looking for in a woman?" Well, not really. But they're asking somebody. And I feel compelled to answer. Now, I'm not speaking for all guys, just the ones who are like me - the North American Average Joe. It's no mystery, ladies. I mean, you don't have to be Indiana Jones to find the answers. We're pretty simple creatures, often confused by complicated things like "feelings." Some will say guys want a hot bod. Others will say we're all looking for a mother figure. And another group subscribes to the ... Read More ...

In every relationship, you reach a certain unavoidable point. A crossroads, as it were. And the decisions you make at that moment can deeply affect the rest of that relationship. You get plenty of warning, if you're paying attention. If not, it sneaks up and completely blindsides you. Either way, it cannot be stopped. What is it, you ask? The exchange of gifts. Whether it's a birthday, Christmas, or - the big one - an anniversary, you've gotta do it. And whether you're a guy or girl, it ain't easy. A bad gift can end it right then and there. ... Read More ...

Love...well, it's exciting and new. Come aboard, we're expecting you! OOPS. Sorry. That's the Love BOAT. Nevermind. What do I think of love? Hmmm. Love is the most powerful force on the planet. People have fought and died for love. People have given up everything for love. They write songs about it, movies, TV shows, books and poems. For crying out loud, it's the only emotion with its own holiday. Love can make you higher than any drug, but can also make you feel like you got kicked in the gut. Love can make you do some pretty stupid things, ... Read More ...

Question I am a female and I love my boyfriend very much, but when we kiss I feel like I've been slobbered on by a huge dog. What should I do and how should I go about telling him to stop drooling all over me? Thank you. ~ Joy Kwame's Answer: Joy, I hear ya. It's great when your boyfriend is drooling all over you, but it's not cool when he's doing it literally. Sloppy kisses defeat the whole purpose of the kiss, whether you're trying to be loving, passionate, or sexy. It ruins the mood. Besides, in general no ... Read More ...

Ever been jealous? Don't shake your head like that, because you know you have. Everybody has. Why? Because at least once in everyone's life, somebody else has something they want, but can't have. And that's OK. It's human nature. Not the prettiest side of human nature, but natural nonetheless. "I want the same car as my neighbor." "I wish I had a job that easy." "How come SHE gets a $10,000 bonus?" Normal, human jealousy. Then, there's the other kind. The kind that leaves you sitting in your car in the Wal-Mart parking lot, waiting to see if she comes ... Read More ...

Ever notice that when you're single, all everybody talks to you about is how great it is to be a couple? And how when you're in a couple, everyone tries to tell you how much fun you're missing in the single life? Ever notice how you believe them? The phenomenon is as old as the hills, but people still fall for it. Desperate people end up in crappy relationships. People in pretty healthy relationships just pick up and leave because they don't want to miss out. So, I've gotta ask: is the grass always greener? No. Look, Chachi. Grass is ... Read More ...

Ah, this one has plagued man since the dawn of time. So you're out there, banging things together, trying to make fire like your next cave neighbor did a week ago. A beautiful cave-babe walks by and you're hooked. You chat her up, telling her about the sabretooth you bagged last week. She's interested, and tells you to call her sometime, which actually requires finding a big rock from which to scream. But when do you do it? Tonight? Tomorrow? A week from now? Oonga boonga. What did you get yourself into? A million years later, there you sit, staring ... Read More ...

A 10-step program for Gals Be on time. I don't care what magazine you read it in, there is no such thing as "Fashionably Late." As soon as you're more than 30 seconds late, he will start to panic that he's been stood up. And if he's picking you up, do you really want him sitting in the living room with your Dad, sister, or roommate for 20 minutes? That's just long enough for the stories to start. Be aware. If you're going to wear something revealing, know before you leave your bedroom that he WILL notice your ample cleavage ... Read More ...

Question When a guy tells me that he loves me how can I know if he is just saying it so that I will have sex with him? If I have sex with a guy who doesn't really love me, but says he does, how will he act afterwards? ~ Kim Kwame's Answer: Kim, This is a tough one to answer because I don't know you or your fella. But by and large, this is an issue of trust and common sense. If you've only been on four dates, and he's saying he loves you, it's very likely that he ... Read More ...

A 10-Step Program for Guys Pick her up or meet her on time. How do you do this? Show up early. I'm not kidding. Not much. 10 minutes or so. Any more than that and you go from looking anxious (which is good) to desperate (not so good). If there are roomies, family, or friends at the pick-up or meeting place, engage them in conversation. You never want to run in and whisk her off and leave her best friend standing there, still waiting to shake your hand. Why? It comes back to hurt you in the later rounds. Pick ... Read More ...

There's nothing quite like a first date. By the time it rolls around, you've done some hard work. You've plowed through tons of prospective dates, weeding out the psychos, stalkers, and other undesirables. You came up with something clever and charming to say on the phone. You've found someone you have something in common with. (Given, the only thing you may have in common is that you were both at the same party, but that's neither here nor there.) You find them interesting, at least. So interesting that you're actually willing to spend a major part of your evening in ... Read More ...

Fellas -- When you're with a woman, not even necessarily dating her, a funny thing happens. All seems normal as you're getting ready to go out, and then she starts looking at you funny. Her eyes roam up and down your body. She gets a weird look in her eye. She moves in close, her freshly-lipsticked lips part, and she asks: "Can you carry this for me?" Ah yes. The pocket principle. This one starts as far back as college, when they finally figure out exactly how to smile, bat their eyes, and pout their lips to get you to ... Read More ...