Let's face it, you never get a second chance to make a first impression! That's why, if you want to take things further with a woman, you need to show her your best on the very first date. And in actual fact, there are 5 things that men consistently do on first dates that totally destroy their chances of seeing the woman again, and the worst part is they think they're doing it right! Avoid the following 5 mistakes to increase your chances of success on your first date: Mistake #1 - Buying Gifts Bringing chocolate or flowers on a ... Read More ...

Here is some amazing insight that came about THIS MORNING during a coaching call with one of the guys who has put me to work for him. If you are into online dating at all (which you should be), you'll want to pay close attention.  And if you're not, now may be the best time to START. As you may know already, I talk a lot about how guys ruin their chances right from the start in their online profiles...simply by FOLLOWING THE DIRECTIONS. It's no secret to anyone who is successful online that Match.com et al really do not give out ... Read More ...

I refer to what I call the "Big Four" quite a bit. Yet, it has occurred to me that I've never devoted an article to making sure you've got the exact concept I'm talking about down with pinpoint accuracy. "It's about freakin' time", someone said. And I have no arguments for you there. Better late than never though. So let's fix the situation. The "Big Four", in principle, are the most basic, fundamental factors that decide whether a woman is attracted to you or not. Get them right, and women WILL respond powerfully to you. Ignore them (or worse?be ignorant ... Read More ...

How many of you were older brothers? Or how many of you knew guys who were, back in middle or high school? What was the biggest complaint about the younger kid? If you had a standard relationship, the biggest strain was ALWAYS that your younger sibling hung around too much. There you were, trying to play video games, and he was always butting in, usually being embarrassing for some unplaced reason. You wanted to go to the movies with your friends, and she wanted to come, and your mom made you take him. It was so ANNOYING! You had this ... Read More ...

I am going to tell you about a powerful technique for attracting women. I will speak of it from my own perspective, but this does not mean that I am the only woman out there that you will make weak in the knees. This simple seduction trick that I'm speaking of is saying a woman's name. There is nothing like hearing a guy I'm attracted to say my name...especially when it takes me by surprise. Catching me offguard is good for you because use of my name at those times will not go unnoticed. I have seen my attraction level ... Read More ...

Listening is one of the most powerful tools you have in attracting women. By being interested in her life you are subtley communicating that you are interested in her. This is one of the better ways to make her feel special, cherished and important. Ways to Show a Woman You are Listening If she has had a bad day and is venting to you, encourage her to tell you more. Ask lots of questions so that she can 'get it all out' and does not feel as though she is burdening you with her problems. If she mentions that she ... Read More ...

By golly, you've actually met a woman. Maybe you're in bar. Maybe you're at the gym or laundromat. Maybe she's someone you know from work. Or maybe, even, you're actually out on a date. In any event, now you've got to do something scarey, something unpredictable, something with the power to launch a future romantic relationship, or end one before it even gets started. YOU'VE GOT TO TALK TO HER. What do you talk about? Should you tell her about your childhood, your therapist, your plans for the future, the wart on your big toe? What if you can't think ... Read More ...

I remember being on a dinner date, after the waitress had brought the food and left I noticed that she had forgot to bring the extra sauce I had asked for. It was no big deal but I did make a comment mostly to myself: "oh, she forgot the extra sauce". My date heard me and without being asked he asked the waitress for more when she walked by. I was sooo impressed. I really felt taken care of, and closer to him. A couple can also anticipate each other's needs to help keep the romantic feelings and intimacy alive. ... Read More ...

I've been spending quite a bit of time lately interviewing women about what it's like for them to interact with guys these days. I also have the distinct pleasure of hanging out with my main squeeze Emily every day-and reading emails sent to us by literally thousands of women on her list. Taking ALL OF THAT information from SO MANY WOMEN into consideration, I've pulled together some SHOCKING CONCLUSIONS regarding any "approach anxiety" you may be suffering from. Let's just get right to the list: Women Usually Have No Idea That Guys Deal With Approach Anxiety This was a revelation ... Read More ...

Following are Twelve Simple Secrets that you should know about her. When you're done reading them you'll have a better grip on what to do to make her smile a little brighter. Secret #1: Romance is the key to sex Romance is routine maintenance--yeah, like your car -- to keep things running smoothly. Remember all those romantic things you did to win her in the first place? Keep doing them now and then. If you let her know often that you care, she stays open and responsive to your sexual overtures. Romance is all the little things you do to ... Read More ...

If you've been reading my column for a while now, you know that we tend to move freely between the philosophical and the practical around here. Well, today's edition is going to be decidedly practical. In fact, what I'm about to share with you is something that EVERY MAN should know: WHEN to call off a date you've already set up with a woman, and exactly how to go about it. Honestly, I'm a bit surprised that literally NOBODY ever has covered this subject in the world of men's dating and seduction advice, at least as far as I've seen. ... Read More ...

When he looked into her eyes over the breakfast counter she was immediately hooked. Deep brown eyes, perfect brows and lips, oh lips just right to kiss! When he asked what she was doing later that day her heart went crazy in her chest and she lost her breath for a moment. So this is what it's like she thought, love at first sight! When he left the restaurant she noticed his wide shoulders and narrow waist. He has on jeans and a T-shirt and she didn't even ask him his name. Later that day as she waited for him ... Read More ...

Most of the time, you won't find women out on their own. In these situations, you need to use a few particular skills to get working the way you need it. The steps are simple - but until you learn them, you aren't going to have much luck approaching ladies in large groups. How To Handle a Woman in a Group In the previous section while I was talking about separation - and especially about separating a woman you've just met from her friends - I bet some of you a bunch of thoughts. Things like "That sounds great in ... Read More ...

Ok, you've probably heard that Laundromats are great pick up places, better than a singles bar - that's because they are! Maybe not better, but certainly a great alternative that's just as good. You can pretend your entire motive is to wash clothes, and that you're not on the make. The woman won't have that feeling like you're just trying to pick her up if you strike up a chat here - even if that's exactly what you're doing! What really helps you out here is that women like to talk, and they love to give advice - especially to ... Read More ...

When it comes to dating, the simple fact is that most guys have the know-how of an eggplant. The messages we recieve from the media, from our friends, and from women only seem to confuse us, and the end result is that we often are frustrated and lost. Given this, I wasn't surprised at all when I recieved an email a couple weeks ago asking me: "If there was one single thing to remember to have more success with women, what would it be?" Women Love Confidence Well, the answer really isn't that difficult. In fact, it's very simple. The ... Read More ...

I firmly believe that some dating advice that carries the disclaimer "for entertainment purposes only" REALLY IS "for entertainment purposes only". What's more, some guys are perfectly okay with that. It's enough for them. After all, SAYING that one is acting on a desire to get better with women and going through the motions in a way that FEELS LIKE getting better with women is often A LOT safer than ACTUALLY DOING SOMETHING. It's potentially WAY less painful, also. But lately it has occurred to me that there's an EVEN MORE fascinating phenomenon out there that is potentially lulling guys ... Read More ...

Since we've all read countless articles and heard endless audio on how "nice guys" don't get women, you'd think we've probably gotten the message by now. Sure, we've had it drummed into our heads that wussies who "kiss up" to women fail. Along with that, it typically follows that we're reminded how "bad boys" or "jerks" are the ones who get all the women. In fact, you've probably heard SO MUCH of this sort of thing that right now you're hoping this newsletter isn't going to simply reiterate something you've heard a thousand times over. Rest assured. I wouldn't do ... Read More ...

Men have been trying to figure out what women want for ages, and to be honest that's an question that bears asking. Without knowing what a woman wants, how can you expect her to respond to you? You've heard the old cliches, that diamonds are a girl's best friend, that every girl wants roses on Valentine's Day, or that what she really wants is romantic getaway, but realistically, what do women want? Answering this question can take a lifetime, and even if it's an extremely enjoyable study on a vastly lovely topic, it will be frustrating, as well! Take a ... Read More ...

Are you having trouble getting your ex off of your mind? She may be still thinking about you, too, day and night. Often when a relationship has ended, one or both parties wish it hadn?t. And yet, it can be hard to tell for sure whether she would like to make another go of it. Here are 7 signs that she is still interested. Sign #1: She calls you often just to say hi: If your ex were truly over you, she would probably not be calling you very often. Frequent phone calls are a sign that she may be ... Read More ...

The old saying, ?The Knight In Shining Armor? still exists today like it did in the medieval times. Only difference is that we?re no longer on a horse and wearing our metal. These days it?s more of a male chivalry which we all men should show if we want to attract our woman. Women are always looking for their knight in shining armor all the time. It is in them to want to be rescued. So whenever there is a chance to help a woman in need, never hesitate. Just do it! We may not be attracted to the woman ... Read More ...