A 10-step program for Gals Be on time. I don't care what magazine you read it in, there is no such thing as "Fashionably Late." As soon as you're more than 30 seconds late, he will start to panic that he's been stood up. And if he's picking you up, do you really want him sitting in the living room with your Dad, sister, or roommate for 20 minutes? That's just long enough for the stories to start. Be aware. If you're going to wear something revealing, know before you leave your bedroom that he WILL notice your ample cleavage ... Read More ...

Question When a guy tells me that he loves me how can I know if he is just saying it so that I will have sex with him? If I have sex with a guy who doesn't really love me, but says he does, how will he act afterwards? ~ Kim Kwame's Answer: Kim, This is a tough one to answer because I don't know you or your fella. But by and large, this is an issue of trust and common sense. If you've only been on four dates, and he's saying he loves you, it's very likely that he ... Read More ...

In a recent survey of almost 200 men, we asked the question: "What is the first thing you notice when you look at a woman?" Here are the results 53 Respondents: Her eyes 33 Respondents: Her smile / Her mouth 32 Respondents: Her body 15 Respondents: Her hair 14 Respondents: Her apparent level of self-confidence  3 Respondents: Her clothes  2 Respondents: Her skin ... Read More ...

In an episode of Ally McBeal, Ally's roommate, Renee (played by Lisa Nicole Carson) eyes a handsome attorney, motions with her finger for him to approach, hands him a business card and says, "Call me." While at her apartment, he gets too aggressive, and Renee fends him off by demonstrating her kick-boxing skills. He requires a trip to the hospital, and Renee, a deputy district attorney, faces assault charges. Renee is a master (mistress might be a better word) of flirtation, but, unfortunately, she sends the wrong message by being too forward. In real life, women use body language to ... Read More ...

There are many different things one can do to romance a guy, but do you want to know what makes us tick? What really gets our engines purring? We love, and I repeat, LOVE to feel needed. It's really that simple. The fact that others need us gives us purpose for living. Men like to feel, as most people do, special and valuable to others. When things need to be done, like your car being washed, or a can needing to be opened, let him do it (even if you really are strong enough to open it yourself). When he ... Read More ...

A lot of guys, when they try to change their success with women, wind up going the wrong way. They pick out the wrong characteristics, never truly commit themselves to the characteristics anyway, and so come across as false and sleazy. The key to doing it RIGHT is all in the body. How does a sleaze become a sleaze? ?Heeeey baby.? When you picture a guy saying that, what do you see? Let me guess ? some lounge lizard with a pencil moustache, a gold medallion bigger than a fist, and a SLEAZY smile. Ugh. These are guys who?ve REALLY ... Read More ...

Alpha is the first letter of the Greek alphabet. In astronomy, it is the brightest star in a constellation. In common parlance, alpha means to be the first. Alpha males are guys who seem to be leading the pack, the hunter, the ever-reliable male god. They are all around us, in the ranks burly blue collar workers to the impeccable corporate leaders. So why do women like alpha males; or do they? Women do not only like alpha males; they adore them! Alpha males are the stuff that women's romantic imaginations are of. These are men who get women's attention ... Read More ...

We spend a lot of time making sure we aren?t put in the ?friend? category. But an even worse mistake is to be thought a creep. There?s no recovery. So let?s define a creep ? and then make sure we?re not it. The Two Bad Categories I want you to think for a moment: what are the two categories of men that you want to stay out of, at all costs, if you?re going to have a chance with a lady? Alright, one is easy: you CAN?T be a ?friend.? We?ve talked about this a lot, and we?re not going ... Read More ...

As part of my research for a guide to style, I put together a focus group of 6 randomly chosen hot, single women between 21 and 33, to find out what styles in men they considered hot. My goal was to find the things that they all agreed on. The results were surprising, because the issues the women had the strongest opinions about were ones that most guys would never think of. Your Teeth Bad teeth are "just gross" said one blonde bombshell, to the enthusiastic agreement of the others. So in order to not have your teeth immediately disqualify ... Read More ...

A woman, more than anything else, wants to be cherished. And she wants to be with a man who will cherish her, value her and make her feel safe. She wants a man she can trust. Trust allows her to be vulnerable and receptive to him. Women don't want Mr. Macho, they want Super Hero. Super Heroes are good guys who are a little sensitive, can be vulnerable, and are not afraid to show their feelings. Super Heroes know they have feelings and they know it's okay to have them. They are confident that they have "the right stuff", which ... Read More ...