https://getromantic.com/singles/for_women/compliment_men.html Romance Tips, Dating Advice, Sex Advice, Relationship Advice Wed, 31 Mar 2010 00:54:28 +0000 hourly 1 https://getromantic.com/singles/for_women/compliment_men.html#comment-207 Sat, 29 Aug 2009 13:00:11 +0000 #comment-207 PS. Sorry for a few typos including “over due” which I meant to say “over do” :)

]]> https://getromantic.com/singles/for_women/compliment_men.html#comment-206 Sat, 29 Aug 2009 12:57:14 +0000 #comment-206 I’m gay so I’m also interested in this top 10 list. I often date bisexual men who are often coming out of the closet. These men have similar emotional needs as a straight man, I’ve found all these things above actually do work. But I have issues with number 9. It’s good to ask for help but “don’t be a mooch”. I’ve had female friends as well as gay who only act very nice to a straight or bi man simply so they can get stuff from him. I love #9 but this is one that we should not over due. Also just because a man might help you with the leg press at the gym or fix your car doesn’t actually mean he is interested in you… he simply might be being friendly. Either way asking too much of a man and constantly getting favors will eventually have the opposite affect than the flattery you intended even though the straight or bi man will still help you (often he is in love with you or he’s simply being a nice man). But often times I hear men in private say “wow that woman next door is hot and I love her to death but she is using me and that makes me feel horrible” even though in public he’s put on a good poker face and acts like she is flattering him by constantly asking for favors and help. So, tone it down. Pick and Choose the right time and things to ask help with. Don’t over due the favor asking and remember, just because he’s nice to you doesn’t mean he is interested. A lot of men simply feel it’s their duity as a man to be helpful. I love the whole top ten list here but I feel it’s my experience that number 9 can be a mixed blessing and should be approached with respect and careful consideration. I’m not saying “not to do number 9” because I think it’s great advice, just remember that he’s a man not a cash machine or robot that fixes stuff for you. He’s got a heart too even if he has trouble showing it. His heart can be hurt if he feels used.

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