This situation is a like saying
“I have a hot of boiling water in a pot, if I dump on my head, will it hurt?”

Here’s another:
“Whenever I walk in the snow without shoes, my feet get very cold. It’s snowing outside, should I wear shoes?”

And a final one:
“When I speed down my local highway, I have been ticketed. Will I be ticketed if I speed this time? ”

You are dealing with a man who is cheating on another woman for you. Do you want to take the risk that he will cheat on you?

Go find yourself an honorable man.

it is sad, but normally guy’s do not leave their wives/longtime girlfriends for another female, especially if he lives with her and/or they have any children together.
also, they usually tell you that they ‘love you’ in order for you to stay with them, particularly if they fear you may be getting fed up or if another guy appears interested in you.
i think he probably does love you, but you cannot go on sharing him, so to speak.
an idea is to keep a distance & not let him see you or have any form of contact for a long while – then, when he cannot take no more and is hurting/upset, explain to him nicely that you’ll be gone for good & moving on with your life without him because you can no longer be “second best”.
this way, without you actually giving him an ultimatum [which is cruel & manipulative], he’ll go away and think. IF he truly loves you, he will come your way with a full, real commitment to you only. otherwise he will just stick to his present girlfriend.

hope this helps kerry.
keep well.
>anne :-)