Step-by-Step Kissing Guide for Beginners
Before I ever kissed a guy I always wondered how it was done. I wanted to know ALL the details, but mainly “How do I move my lips?!”.
The only advice I could find was “it will happen naturally…”. I was not satisfied and I know that you would not be satisfied if I told you that same old stuff.
So, I will give you all the basic step-by-step instructions and hopefully that will give you the confidence you need to get that first kiss (or second, or third…) behind you, so you can start experimenting and trying new things on your own!
Step 1: Moving In
The first step to a kiss is “moving in”. This begins as eye contact with your partner while your faces are in close proximity. When the eye contact is intense and does not break you know a kiss is going to happen.
Next, one or both partners will lean their face towards the other person’s face. Keep your eyes open and maintain eye contact while “moving in”. This will prevent you from missing or having a collision.
When your faces are almost close enough to touch, slowly tilt your head a little to the side. If you both go in for the kiss straight-on your noses will bump, with tilted heads your noses will just rub or not touch at all.
As you tilt your head, slowly close your eyes, and part your lips.
It is important to close your eyes, keeping them open will probably weird out your partner. When parting your lips don’t open your mouth wide, just part them, as if you were going to take a drink from a cup. You are now about to achieve lip contact.
Step 2: Lip Contact
When your lips touch the position should be one whereby your upper lip is nuzzled between your partner’s lips and your lower lip is just below their lower lip.
So, in effect, you have their lower lip between yours and they have your upper lip between theirs.
Step 3: Moving Your Lips
There are many ways to move your lips while kissing. As you become more experienced you will try different techniques and learn new ones both on your own and from your kissing partners. I am going to describe the very basic make-out technique.
The motion of kissing is much like if you were giving someone a peck on the cheek. Press your lips on their skin, then pucker your lips, then release.
When making out you are basically giving your partner a series of pecks on the lips, but drawing each one out to last longer. You also do not kiss them then pull away, then kiss them and pull away…maintain lip contact between and during each drawn out peck.
Add Some Variety to Your Kisses
Here are some simple ways to add variety to your kisses:
- Don’t kiss just their lower lip the whole time. Switch from top to bottom and try tilting your head a little more so you are kissing the corner area of their mouth.
- Stop the kissing motion briefly to slowly swipe your lips across theirs from corner to corner, diagonally.
- If you want to kiss their neck don’t just stop kissing their lips and move your head to kiss their neck…make a trail of quick pecks up their jawbone from their lips to their ear then down the side of their neck. Or, you can make a trail of kisses down over and under their chin to their neck. As you kiss under their chin your partner’s head should tilt back to allow easier access to their neck. FYI: tilt your head back some when your partner is trying to kiss your neck!
Practice Makes Perfect
You don’t need a kissing partner to get started on practicing. Here is one way to turn your hand into the perfect kissing practice tool:
Make a fist and face your palm towards you. Now raise two fingers in the “peace” sign (your ‘pointy’ and middle finger). Instead of spreading your fingers in a “V”, keep them together, but slightly parted when necessary. Now tilt your hand to the side and you have a set of makeshift lips. Pretend the top finger is your partner’s upper lip and the bottom finger is their lower lip.
Below are some other places on your hand that you can use to practice kissing:
- The web of skin between your thumb and first finger
- The back of your hand
- Your wrist
I literally had my first kiss with my boyfriend today and we both ended up laughing because I had not a single clue as to how to do it, and i almost got it the fourth time we attempted to kiss, but then i just felt stupid, so now I’m here!
Still have no f-ing idea what’s happening, but I know how to kiss my hand now.
I have never actually kissed someone in my life, but this was helpful for when I do. Thx a bunch!
I’ve visited websites with that same question but yours is the best. let mi go to kiss right away. Thanks
thank you my girlfriend is always critizing my kissing because i have no idea what the heck to do
I haven’t kissed in my life, and I’ve always wondered how. This isn’t the first site I’ve visited on this subject, but your description was the best out of them all! I like this guy at my school, and I thought that If I was gonna ask him out, I had better be familiar with the basics of kissing! Thanks, this helped ALOT!!!
Same!!! My boyfriend lives in a different state and I’ve had many relationships but in none of them did I kiss my lover! I’ve searched for this before but no website I visited helped me. I’m so happy that I found this website! It helps a lot and I’ll be prepared for when my boyfriend comes to visit me! I needed to learn how to kiss because I know my lover is romantic and will try to kiss me!
thnx! now i can finally work up the nerve to kiss this special person!
This really saved my life!!! a really HOT!!!! girl from school kissed me and i almost did half decent with the tips. THanks :)
OMG OMG OMG you are a life saver i was so worried because the 1st time i went to kiss my boyfriend i freaked out and backed away but now i should be okay hopefully thankyou thankyou thankyou :)
Thanks! This is the one site, that actually helped.
Alot more confident of going in for the first one now..
Lets just hope it isn’t a total train wreck :P
wow, this would have been realllly helpful earlier today! as soon as me and my dates lips touched (this was my first kiss you see) i burst out laughing…. yeah… not so good…at all. i felt so bad, and then we tryed again, and i did the same thing! i could have cryed, i was so embarased! however, thanks to this, i will hopfully be prepared for next time!
thx this helped lot except i dont understand how your toung can go in if their top lip is in the way
omg. thanks this really helps. (:
wooh. thanks(:
I LOVE KISSING! i have been an addict of it for 4 years, and this post is really good. except hands dont work as lips really, but its pretty easy just to go up to a guy and lay one on him! (just for future reference)thanks!
Thanks a lot, I was being so worried about my first kiss, hopefully everything will be ok.
i was told to kiss my girlfriend by my girlfriends bestfriend and im going to on wednesday and this helped very well
Thanks so much. I’ve tried everything from asking my friend for advice (she wasn’t very helpful because she hadn’t ever kissed before) to looking at wiki how and, like you said, they were like “it’ll come naturally and if it doesn’t then you aren’t ready” but you told the cold hard truth about how it really works and now all I need to figure out is how to work up the courage to kiss this boy at my school ???????
Thank you for such a practical article!