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Understanding Women

Following are Twelve Simple Secrets that you should know about her. When you’re done reading them you’ll have a better grip on what to do to make her smile a little brighter.

Secret #1: Romance is the key to sex

Romance is routine maintenance–yeah, like your car — to keep things running
smoothly. Remember all those romantic things you did to win her in the first
place? Keep doing them now and then. If you let her know often that you
care, she stays open and responsive to your sexual overtures.

Romance is all the little things you do to let her know you care.
Call her just to say hi. Buy her a gift “just because.” (Remember, it isn’t
the cost of the gift, it’s the thought.) And flowers, even the smallest
bouquet, always work. How about mailing a card or leaving a note where
she’ll find it? Or planning a special outing, or arranging for a baby-sitter
so you can take her to the movies? Anything that lets her know you’ve been
thinking about her melts her heart. For her, romance and sex go
hand-in-hand. If you want more sex, give her more romance.

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Secret #2: For her, sex takes time

Okay, your romantic efforts have paid off and she’s in the mood for sex.
When asked what sex advice they’d give to men, women almost always say,
“Tell them to SLOW DOWN!”

Think of sex as a slow, sensuous dance. Be gentle, seductive. (Rent
the movie Don Juan deMarco and listen to how he talks about women and making
love.) Explore her entire body. You both may be surprised what you find.
Hold her like you never want to let her go. And give her lots of long, slow
kisses. (Women often complain that men don’t kiss enough.)

What you’re doing is warming her up. You wouldn’t take a Ferrari
that’s been sitting in your garage for a week, start it, and immediately run
it up to 100 mph, would you? Well, think of her as a Ferrari.

Oh, and don’t roll over and fall asleep immediately after sex. Women
really hate this; they need to be held and they love a little pillow talk
afterward, so stay awake for at least a few minutes. Then better yet, fall
asleep holding her.

Secret #3: Talking is the way she connects with you

Women talk for the sheer pleasure of talking. It’s how they connect to
people. If your partner has read my book she understands that a lot of
what she talks about – all those little details – is boring to you. So, she’s
going to be more selective about what she says to you. But if you give her
your full attention when she does talk to you, it becomes one of those
romantic gestures. Got it?

And you know how she’s always trying to get you to be “more
intimate”? If you listen to her more, she’ll think you are being more
intimate. All you have to do is look at her and pay attention; she’ll think
she’s died and gone to heaven. It’s that important to her, and that simple.

Secret #4: She needs to hear you say you care

For her to really feel your love, you need to tell her in words. Of course,
she wants to hear you say “I love you,” but anything you say to let her know
you care and appreciate her will earn you major points: “You’re wonderful,
do you know that?” “I’m so lucky to have you.” “Do you know how much I love
you?” Big points on that one. Whenever you say these things, look into her
eyes and mean it. Remember this, you cannot tell her you love her too often.
This definitely wins you points on the romance chart.

And, how often have you heard one of your buddies, who’s gotten a
divorce, say, “I never realized how much she did to make my life

Secret #5: She needs to hear she’s attractive

In today’s culture, because of what they are taught as girls, and because of
what they read in magazines and see on TV and in films, women get insecure
about how they look and whether they’re sexually appealing. So, tell her
regularly – and let her know you mean it – that she’s beautiful and sexy.

Compliment her on a new dress, the color she’s wearing, or how her
hair looks. Tell her she has soft skin, how much she turns you on, how
pretty her breasts are. The more beautiful she feels, the sexier she’ll
feel. This should pay off big time in the bedroom.

Secret #6: Her feelings need to be honored

Her feelings are as important to her as your work (or maybe sports) is to
you. That’s why she likes to talk about them. She needs you to acknowledge
what’s going on for her when she’s being emotional. Don’t try to tell her
that what she’s feeling is “wrong” and don’t try to fix the problem unless
she asks you to. And never tell her “not to feel” her emotions. A sure-fire
winner: ask her, “What are you feeling?” Then sit down and listen.

She understands that you get kind of uncomfortable when she’s being
emotional, but if you just let her express herself and listen with your full
attention, she’ll think you’re the most sensitive man on the planet.

Secret #7: Making up is hard to do

When you fight with your partner, are you often surprised that it turned
into a bigger event than it should have? If she’s like most women, she tends
to get going with her emotions and lets everything spill out. She doesn’t
mean a lot of what she says. Do your best to pay attention, let her vent,
but don’t let the words get to you. The best way to stop her in her tracks
is to admit that you were being stubborn, insensitive, inconsiderate, and
hurtful. The more conciliatory you are, the more she’ll be stopped in her
tracks. If you make the first move to make up and offer no resistance, she
can’t keep fighting with you. Someone has to take charge so it doesn’t
escalate, and because she’s lost in her emotions, it’s going to have to be
you. Be willing to look at her complaint and see where you may have been
insensitive to her needs.

If you both vow to never go to bed mad, you’ll be making love
instead of war.

Secret #8: She likes to be pampered

Your woman naturally does for others. She appreciates the value of nurturing
but all too often doesn’t take the time to care for herself. You can score
big time if once in a while you run a bubble bath for her, take her on a
special trip or plan a romantic dinner, give her a gift certificate from her
favorite shop or a trip to a day spa. Talk about getting a woman “in the
mood.” Wahoo!

Sure, she appreciates that you change the oil in her car, but it
doesn’t really tell her you love her, even though that may be what you mean.
To pamper her just remember, personal luxuries.

Secret #9: She needs your respect

Throughout history, and in many cultures even today, women have been
second-class citizens, looked down on as less able in every category. Only
recently have we begun to consider women worthy of respect. To be the open,
loving woman you want, she needs you to honor her as a person and appreciate
her contributions as a capable person. Don’t treat her as a child. Don’t
judge or criticize her. Don’t ignore her or take her for granted. Don’t be
rude. Treat her like a lady at all times and she’ll treat you with the
respect that you expect and enjoy.

Secret #10: She needs to feel secure

Your lady has a deep biological need to feel secure, to have a man provide
for her and protect her. Financial security is obviously important, but even
more than that, she needs to know you’re there for her. That’s one of the
reasons she needs to hear you say “I love you.”

What really helps is to give her ongoing affection and the
reassurance of physical contact. If you do this every day, several times a
day, you’ll give her the security she needs. Hold her hand, put your arm
around her, hug her, touch her in gentle and reassuring ways. The more
secure she feels, the happier she’ll be. When she’s happy, she’s open to

Secret #11: She needs your time and attention

Does she ever try to talk to you when you’re reading the newspaper? Or walk
in front of the TV in the middle of the play-offs? Does she complain that
she never sees you, never has time to talk with you, or that you don’t even
know she’s alive? If so, it’s a plea for your attention. She knows how
focused you can be when you’re working, but she feels left out. It’s part of
that security thing.

What to do? Set aside time now and then to focus on her. Let her know
she’s important enough to devote yourself to her completely and she’ll be
less likely to feel ignored. The rewards will far outweigh the effort.

Secret #12: She wants a man who makes her feel like a woman

She chose you because of your masculine qualities. Qualities that make her
feel more womanly. In your presence, she feels protected, provided for, and
loved. Be masculine, but do it with sensuality and sensitivity. Be hungry
for her, be passionate, be strong, but be tender, as if she were a delicate
flower. And, yes, open the car door for her, carry heavy things for her,
pull out her chair. The feminist movement did a lot of damage to romance but
if your woman has been reading this book, she’s not into feminism, she’s
into love and romance. That means you. Be chivalrous, be gallant, be
thoughtful, and win her heart…over and over again.

Make her feel beautiful, make her feel desirable, make her feel
special and important, and you’ll make her feel like a woman–as only a man
can do.

Yes, It’s That Simple!

So there it is in a nutshell. Twelve Simple Secrets that could very well
change your life forever. You can never know for sure what’s going on with a
woman, but you can certainly make everything a lot nicer–for both of
you–by following the advice you’ve just read.

Men complain that women nag, criticize, try to change them, are never
satisfied, are too emotional and unpredictable. If you follow these Secrets
and make them a habit, that irritating behavior should pretty much
disappear. If it comes back, consider it a barometer of how you’re doing.
Then get the Secrets out and read them again.

The way to be a great lover is to be a romantic lover. When you focus
on romance, she’ll respond to you like never before. And she’ll feel like
she’s the luckiest woman alive.

Do You Wish SHE Understood YOU Better?

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The book teaches women to understand you and accept you as you are,
to appreciate you, especially the masculine qualities that she most admires,
to be happy and beautiful in every way, and to enjoy sex because it’s your
primary source of intimate expression…and you know how women are always
asking for more intimacy.

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Kara Oh

Kara Oh is the creator of AliveWithLove.com, and author of "Men Made Easy" - discover what's going on inside his head and what it takes to win his heart!

One thought on “Understanding Women

  • This list is right on target. It does feel a little like it’s asking men to do a bit more than their fair share (seriously, women should know not to try to talk to a man when watching the game), but if a guy can just do his best with these, he’ll be fine. Of course, if he can master them, she’ll think he’s the greatest thing around!

    If, at the very least, guys can remember these words of the author, ‘Make her feel beautiful, make her feel desirable, make her feel special and important’, then he’ll probably make his woman happy.

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