It has been eight months or so since that fateful springtime morning when I opened my inbox to find a "nice" message from a young woman somewhere in Canada. The missive was a simple one, reading: "You understand women better than most women do. It's like you are The Chick Whisperer, or something." Obviously, that particularly catchy phrase soon became the name of the podcast for men that we already had in the planning stages. But is this really some sort of special or even downright supernatural gift that I have? Nah, understanding MOTOS (Members Of The Opposite Sex) is ... Read More ...

Why are some people born natural flirts and others couldn't charm the backside of a bus if their life depended on it? The power of flirting goes beyond attracting the opposite sex. Master the art of flirting and you also become a friend magnet and can use your skills to influence business relationships. "You've either got it or you haven't!" is often what you will hear men saying when they boast about their conquests. Women, on the other hand, are more coy when talking about a man they have met. So as not to appear full of herself, she will ... Read More ...

You like him, he likes you so you decide to go out for a bite to eat. Now the problems start. Poor eating and etiquette habits turn off more people than almost anything else except personal hygiene. So here's the skinny on some of the most common dining dilemmas that couples encounter and how to work around them. Dining Dilemma 1: Where to go to eat? This of course has to do with who is doing the inviting, where you met the person and other considerations like if there are certain foods the other person can't eat. The best way ... Read More ...

Once you've piqued a man/woman's interest enough for him/her to be attracted to you, how do you keep him/her there? One way to enhance the attraction and keep his/her interest is play hard-to-get. Playing hard-to-get when done right is much more important than most people think, realize or are willing to admit. Mystery and elusiveness is fundamental to our very nature. God, the universe, the weather, human nature, male-female relationships are all examples of things that are beautiful, very real and so easy to see (or find) but so hard to figure out and pin down. We first become conscious ... Read More ...

Do you know what kind of person would make you happy? What qualities would you want someone you would want to marry have? As human beings, we all respond to certain gestures and behaviors positively. This dating advice for women and men is to describe which qualities you need to have on your radar screen when you are searching for a partner with whom you can have long term bliss. Keep in mind the following relationship issues as you evaluate someone as a "Motivated to Marry" Partner. Offers you genuine friendship Everyone wants someone who can be their best friend ... Read More ...

Today's dating tips for men and women are designed to help you know when you have found the right "Motivated to Marry" partner. Let's say that Nancy is 38 and has been dating Barry for a year now and is wondering if he is the one for her. She would like to be married with a family and is starting to think about if she should break up with Barry. My advice is that if she isn't sure, then it is not right. This is why. Of the couples I have interviewed, they expressed having these signs about their mates ... Read More ...

Well, if you've ever read an online dating profile anywhere, you've invariably seen some version of today's Phrase Of The Day in there somewhere. This can come in the form of, "No Games!" or "I am sick of playing games!" or "I do not play games, and won't put up with it", among others. Having read this phrase a few hundred times, I got a bright idea. I started asking people what they meant by that. The conversations, predictably, went about like this: Me: So you say you don't want to "play games". What are "games", exactly? They: Uh?you know?"games". ... Read More ...

When two people are seeing each other and one isn?t quite ?feelin? it?, the other is invariably about to get the ?Just Be Friends? talk. This, of course, is assuming we?re not dealing with desperate, clingy people who would rather ?settle? than be confronted with having to meet someone else. And ?nice guys? everywhere universally dread the ?JBF?, as inevitable as it ends up being much of the time when a woman?s femininity fails to be ignited. But there is a place even more dreadful than the ?JBF? zone. Dreadful, yet oftentimes completely ignored as even a remote possibility by ... Read More ...

Going out with someone has enough stress associated with it that no one wants to worry about doing math at the meal. Besides the most important question on your mind, (does my date like me and do I still like them), your mind is also now consumed with tipping questions like how much of a tip should I leave? Also, did I tip everyone I was supposed to tip? The questions add up quicker than the bill in some cases. Following are the answers to these questions and a few others you may run into when you are out dining ... Read More ...

So you've settled down to eat a fine meal for the first time together but everything your mother taught you about courtesy around cuisine has completely left your mind. The only thing you know for sure is to keep your elbows off the table and eat with your mouth closed and that's not a bad start, but it won't score you any points either! Listen, people have such poor eating habits that if you can keep your elbows off the table, chew with your mouth shut and not talk with your mouth full you're already ahead of the game. Here ... Read More ...

How many times have you been somewhere and seen someone interesting, but haven't had the foggiest idea how to meet that person? Well, here is exactly what to do and say to be able to meet whomever you want to meet. 1. Feel confident and good about yourself - Before you approach someone, concentrate on something you feel good about. 2. Make eye contact - Hold their glance for longer than a second. 3. Smile - Smiling is just as important as making eye contact. 4. Be aware of you body language - Make sure you have good posture. 5. ... Read More ...

The first date is always the hardest. You never know what to do. Most people will choose the old stand-byes, dinner or a movie. Now, for me this is always a great idea. I love movies. I am an avid film buff and I prefer watching a movie to television any day. And, I usually try to find someone who shares my passion for film. Sometimes, I just want to do something different, so here are a few suggestions that can be fun. Theater ? Most metropolitan cities have some sort of theater. And, for me it is close to ... Read More ...

Dale Carnegie famously pointed out that you can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you. Although Dale Carnegie died in 1955, his work in personal development lives on. His classic book, How to Win Friends and Influence People was first published in 1937 and is considered the grandfather of all ?people skill? books since then. Because of his great understanding of human nature, his books and fundamental teachings are just as popular today. In fact, the title of his book ... Read More ...

This list was developed by listening to singles talk about what they want in relationships, how they evaluate potential partners and why they reject them. Don't be unavailable. This one is the number one complaint with singles. Again and again people say they are available when in reality they are consumed with something/someone. Want to be considered a great catch, considered a keeper? Be available to have a relationship if you say you want one. Don't cling, demand or beg for attention. It's good to like someone and want to be with him or her. But when you want closeness ... Read More ...

I'm not sure exactly. Maybe it was the seven years I spent working with gang kids. Perhaps I've been conditioned by those eleven years' worth of high-pressure dealings with telecom companies. Or, more likely, it was the last five years of dating that got me to this point. But there's no denying it. I have a "smoke" detector that would make "Judge Judy" jealous. Let me explain. I make it a point to look for the best in people, and I believe I do my part in bringing it out in them. And as an adopted Texan a handshake means ... Read More ...

OK, I understand that some of us can be lazy at times. But good gravy, how do people like you and I become so lethargic as not to RUN AWAY from certain people we end up on dates with? Granted, the "warning signs" of when to hit "eject" are not always so easy to recognize-especially when we are clouded by attraction. That said, it's important to realize that getting out of a potentially bad relationship situation tends to be more emotionally and possibly physically difficult as time progresses. That is EXACTLY why today's article is of crucial importance. Today we ... Read More ...

?You know, it's dangerous for you to be here in the frozen food section. You could melt all this stuff.? --Steve Martin in ?My Blue Heaven? Funny thing about today?s topic. The concept is one of the oldest, most overwrought stereotypes in the dating world. Yet, how many people (other than Vinnie) do you know who actually have met someone at the grocery store? Have you? Would you like to? As promised, today we?re going to talk all about how to turn the local supermarket into your dating playground?or at least potentially. And it?s easier than you think. No, this ... Read More ...

Are you single and want more dates? Do you know how to work a room? Do you go to social functions and find yourself unable to make small talk? Do you hate the idea of going somewhere and trying to meet someone new? Working a room takes technique and courage. If you answered yes to the above, you are not alone. Going to new places and meeting new people is the idea of torture to some singles. If you want to be successful at dating however, you need to think about these five tips: Remember--you can't be rejected Working a ... Read More ...

Need an idea for what to do on a date? Here's how to go about finding ideas for new and unusual dates that are enjoyable and memorable. The three most usual choices for what to do on a date are dinner, a movie, and a public event such as a sports game or concert. Those activities often give the couple several hours of time to enjoy each other's company. But relying on those same activities too often, leads to a loss of a sense of drama and a loss of a sense of importance of the time spent together. Human ... Read More ...

To excel in the dating game it is important to be guided by the player and they don?t come much better than date doctor Alex Hitchens in short ?Hitch?. So we took his word as a piece of gospel when he said that 'With no guile and no game there is no girl'. These are few of the tips from his movie ?Hitch? to help you guys to see the forest through the sleaze. Principle 1: No woman wakes up saying god I hope I don?t get swept off my feet today. No species after bacteria existed on the planet ... Read More ...