How to Know What She Wants
Men have been trying to figure out what women want for ages, and to be honest that’s an question that bears asking. Without knowing what a woman wants, how can you expect her to respond to you? You’ve heard the old cliches, that diamonds are a girl’s best friend, that every girl wants roses on Valentine’s Day, or that what she really wants is romantic getaway, but realistically, what do women want? Answering this question can take a lifetime, and even if it’s an extremely enjoyable study on a vastly lovely topic, it will be frustrating, as well! Take a look a few pointers for figuring out what women want.
Listen actively…
To start off with, women want someone who listens. This seems simple enough, until you add in the fact that you need to comprehend, digest and use accordingly as well. Say a girl mentions that she enjoys sushi. Just hearing this statement is not the end of it. To be counted an active listener, surprise her with a dinner at a Japanese restaurant. Women appreciate small details as well as large ones, so try to integrate this into your life. If she mentions being nervous about a presentation at work, ask her about it in the evening. This will win you major points in the listener category.
Have your own life…
Remember to be yourself. You might think that a woman prefers someone who is all about her, but realistically, that gets old. Having your own interests and your hobbies makes you much more interesting. Keep in mind that women like being thought of as worthwhile, but too much is too much. If you spend all your time fawning on her, she’ll soon start believing that you’re a loser who has nothing else going on in his life, and the fact is, she might not be far wrong! When you have a busy life and you make time out of it to spend with your girlfriend or lover, she’ll be flattered. Every woman likes to feel that her man is exciting and fascinating, so make sure that you display this. Trust us, women aren’t looking for doormats that will serve them hand and foot all day, every day!
Know what is important to her…
One strategy that you might want to employ is breaking it down a little bit. So know that the person you’re trying to impress is a woman. Well, that breaks it down to a category that encompasses half the human race. Get more specific than that. Maybe she’s a librarian; that usually means that she enjoys books. Does she work at a gym? That must mean that fitness is important to her. When you start gathering facts like this, you’re getting closer to finding out what is important to the woman that you are interested in.
As you can see, figuring out what women want can be frustrating. When you’re out there trying to attract the eye of the woman of your dreams, remember that you have a lot to offer and that sometimes, what a woman wants most is for you to head over and say hello.
