How to Attract Women

These days my email box is jammed full with letters from men asking for
advice on how to attract women. Being a woman myself, I’m a bit on the
fence as far as revealing the chick’s club secret code, but as an
eternal optimist when it comes to love and relationships, I’ll do whatever I
can to get everybody happily coupled up.

So guys, this month it’s your turn. Below you’ll find some a
combination of my favorite make-her-toes-curl moves, as well as some fun tidbits
from the thousands of women who write to me, telling me what they look
for in a guy.

Science first.

1. Take your positions for the mating dance.

   Want to be the guy who gets noticed? Stand in the center of the
   room. According to Dr. Albert Mehrabian, the author of several
   books and nationally-known expert in the field of spacial psychology,
   where you are in a room (and what you’re doing) has a lot to do with
   your ability to attract women. Where should you be for the
   highest impact and the greatest number of interested cuties?
   Smack-dab in the center of the room, standing up and moving around
   a bit. (But don’t pace a track on the carpet for goodness sake…)

2. Nice guys wear blue.

   According to Color Consultant Leatrice Eiseman, Director of the
   Pantone Color Institute and author of Colors For Your Every Mood,
   women are attracted to men wearing the color blue. And why
   wouldn’t we be? According to Eiseman, guys who frequently
   wear blue are “stable, faithful, constant and always there.” The
   blue guy is a fantastic candidate for a long-term relationship —
   someone who’s dependable, momogomous and can match his
   own clothes.

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   Concerned your wardrobe is driving people away? Stay away
   from what Eiseman calls “squished caterpillar yellow-green”
   which is said to repel both sexes equally.

3. Be an Alpha male, or just look like one.

   According to Body Language Expert Patti Wood, you shouldn’t fold your
   arms or chew on gum, ice or your fingernails. Wood says, chewing
   indicates anxiety or frustration, neither of which are very attractive
   emotions.

   There’s more. Women are biologically attracted to more dominant men, so
   stand tall with your shoulders back. Feel free to take up some space.
   Wood says appearing more dominant effectively draws female attention.
   To attract women, stand with your feet 6-10 inches apart, and your toes
   pointing outward.

   For men who are victims of the “nice guy” badge, or who appear to be
   too submissive to attract women, try taking your Y chromosome out for a
   spin. According to spatial psychologist Albert Mehrabian, men should
   “try wearing bulkier or more conservative hairstyles or clothing,” hold
   your head up, and speed up your speech and gestures to be more
   assertive.

Make your move.

1. The eyes have it.

   Once you’ve zeroed in on a target, lock eyes with her for a full five
   to six seconds, then smile and drop your gaze. Don’t stare a hole
   through the girl’s forehead for goodness sake, just give her a smoldering
   come-hither look and look away. Do this at least three times in a ten to
   fifteen-minute period. Why? Your target needs to know it’s them
   you’re flirting with, and eye contact is a universal signal of openness.
   Then, make your move. Walk up and start a conversation. Wait too long
   and they’ll likely lose interest.

2. Preen like a peacock.

   We tend to preen or groom ourselves subconsciously when we’re attracted
   to someone, by smoothing down our hair or clothes, such as
   straightening your tie. Try combining a grooming gesture with a smile and a gaze.

3. Monkey see, monkey do.

   People mirror each other’s body language when they are attracted with
   similar gestures, voice volume, etc. Try subtly mimicking your flirting
   target’s behavior. If she leans forward, you lean forward. If he
   scratches his head, you scratch your head. If you are mirroring someone’s
   behavior, they’ll begin to feel as though the two of you are connected
   and “in tune.”

4. Go in for the kill.

   Once you and your flirting target have started talking, use these tips
   to deepen the attraction. First, smile and maintain eye contact as
   they are speaking, and focus all of your attention on what they are
   saying. There is rarely anyone more attractive than someone who finds you
   utterly fascinating.

   How to tell if a woman is flirting with you? Look for signs like
   extended eye contact, low-level touching and laughing.

What the women want:

Finally, once you’ve made your move, there are a few more strategies
you should employ. According to my research and the hundreds of letters
I receive every week, what women really want is pretty simple:

1. If you want a woman’s phone number, be a man and ask for it. Don’t
   pull that weenie-move of handing us your business card and expecting us
   to make the first move.

2. Don’t wait a week to call. We know you’re playing it cool and it
   irritates us. Two or three days is plenty of time to wait.

3. Don’t wait until the last minute to ask for a date. Give us a
   chance to look forward to it. (On the other hand, in the early stages of a
   new relationship (first month) NEVER ask us for a date several months
   in advance. Let ‘s make sure the relationship is something both parties
   want to pursue before you get locked into plans you may not want to
   keep.)

4. Never pressure a woman for sex. Really. Especially on the first
   date.

5. Be a gentleman. That means paying for dinner, holding the door
   open, and using your table manners. (Even if you can belch the theme from
   Star Wars.)

6. Always offer your coat on a chilly night. (Yes, we know we should
   bring our own, but we don’t. Besides, there’s something utterly
   fabulous about cuddling up in your big man jacket.)

7. On top of that, be yourself. A really great guy.