So, women ask me all the time: "What are guys looking for in a woman?" Well, not really. But they're asking somebody. And I feel compelled to answer. Now, I'm not speaking for all guys, just the ones who are like me - the North American Average Joe. It's no mystery, ladies. I mean, you don't have to be Indiana Jones to find the answers. We're pretty simple creatures, often confused by complicated things like "feelings." Some will say guys want a hot bod. Others will say we're all looking for a mother figure. And another group subscribes to the ... Read More ...

Telling when a man likes you isn't rocket science. There are definite signs, if you care to look. From body language to language patterns he is giving off constant signs as to whether he likes you. How to Tell if a Man likes a Woman When You've Never Spoken Is there direct eye contact? Does his smile linger when he sees you? Is his body language open? Ex. Is he sitting with his arms crossed or hanging loosely at his side? Crossed arms are like a no trespassing signal. Open relaxed posture is like a welcome mat. How to Tell ... Read More ...

Believe it or not beneath the confident, silent exterior of a guy, lies a feeling or two. Ladies, we understand, are more verbal than men, and relationship experts tell us--as if it's big news--that the feminine of the genders has a need to hear words of affection. Expressions of love and frequent compliments for their beauty and character strengthen relationships with their sweethearts and build a healthy self-image. Unfortunately, with this bit of knowledge, the presumption is that the masculine minority has no such need and guys are quite secure without such verbal applause. The truth is that, whether needed ... Read More ...

Most women think that you have to be a supermodel to attract a quality man. This is simply not true. Any woman that can follow ten easy steps can increase her chances of finding a great guy by up to 80%. Know What You Want Ahead of Time Most women are simply embarrasingly grateful if any man asks them out. When you focus on the kind of man that you want you begin to unconsciously send out signals to that type of man that you would like to be approached. Prepare Yourself Mentally Visualize yourself being approached by the type ... Read More ...

He?s pleasant and cordial, not a jerk. But there are signs that there won?t be a second date. You?d agreed to meet for a drink. The waiter brings your drinks, but when he asks if you are ready to order, your date says, ?We?re just having drinks.? If he were interested in spending more time with you, he?d say, ?Check back in a little while? or at least offer to order appetizers. He doesn?t make much eye contact. That means he doesn?t like looking at you. Even if he is shy, if a man thinks you?re attractive, he won?t be ... Read More ...

Vanish. Disappear. Do a David Copperfield. I've pondered this a lot, as it's happened often. I've interviewed men friends. The following is what I've gleaned. If you don't hear from a guy after one date, it's clear he's not interested. No problem, even though it's classier to send a nice email stating such. But what if you've gone out 2, 3 or more times? You seem to enjoy each others' company. You have fun. Laugh. Good conversation. Some hand holding. Maybe some kissing. Maybe more. Then poof. He's gone. Without a word. Here are my theories on why he disappears. ... Read More ...

The advice that has, for as long as I can remember, been given to women is: "play hard to get if you want to get a man". If you ask, a lot of men will admit that they like it when a woman plays hard to get because they want a challenge. But does the "play hard to get" rule hold up against actual scientific studies? In one study, a group of college men were recruited for what they thought was a dating service. Each man was given the phone number of a lady and instructed to call her and ... Read More ...

She asks... I've been with my boyfriend for over 3 years and I still get jealous when he buys FHM or Maxim. He doesn't do it often but I feel like he compares me to the girls in it, which of course I can never look like. I need to know from a mans point of view, when you buy those magazines (FHM, Maxim, Playboy, etc.) what is the real reason for it? The guys answer... "You think he's reading these mags just to keep an eye on the competition? You're out of your mind. There are hot chicks in ... Read More ...

In society today, a man is expected to be strong, independent, and goal-oriented. He is also supposed to be caring and supportive of his loved ones. But, at the same time, he is often condemned if he's not in control of those softer emotions. So, what's a man to do? Men and women may think uniquely, approach problems from opposite ends, and express themselves in different ways, but our feelings inside are much the same. Men need to be able to give and receive tenderness as freely as women. Nobody should have to be strong and in charge all the ... Read More ...

Could 127 million American women be wrong? Despite what men and women think they know about each other, a new survey reveals the two genders don't know each other as well as they think. In fact, according to this survey of the opposite sexes about their perceptions of men's behavior, men may deserve more credit than women give them. The Seagram's VO Gold "It's What Men Do" survey reveals some interesting and often humorous differences between the sexes and begs the question: Are male stereotypes perpetuated by men's actual behavior, or by women's expectations of bad behavior? Here's what the ... Read More ...

We've all done it. We're smack in the middle of a ho-hum, so-so, not going anywhere relationship. But, we don't break up. We stay. We go out for linguini every Friday night, have a sleepover every Saturday night, and continue on as though we might actually want to be with this person on a permanent basis. Except, of course, that we don't. And it's not that there's anything wrong with him (or her), except that he's just not "The One." Then, we start to think of our alternatives. What will happen if we break it off? Staying home on Saturday ... Read More ...

I used to have a friend named Amy. If I needed anything ? whether it was advice or a pink shirt to match my new pants ? Amy was there for me. We went on shopping trips to New York City and Philadelphia at least once a month, gossiping about people we knew while we drove. We had ?Girl?s Night Out? dinners at our favorite Mexican restaurant, and many giddy times after a few too many margaritas. Every weekend we went to the local bars and clubs hoping to meet ?Mr. Right?. Even if we didn?t meet him, we always ... Read More ...

Tattoos Tattoos used to be the colouring of soldiers, sailors, mafiosi and punk rockers. About ten years ago, they became fashionable. The lower-middle classes started taking them up. Unfortunately, unlike last years' shoes, tattoos can't be taken to the thrift shop and disposed of. To a certain class of person, tattoos are 'cool'. To another, they are a graffito on the temple of the soul. They mark a woman definitively as lower class, alienated, depressed, and a bit daft. They're also a handy way to identify one absolutely to the authorities. Which shows how stupid some crooks are. The same ... Read More ...

Ah, this one has plagued man since the dawn of time. So you're out there, banging things together, trying to make fire like your next cave neighbor did a week ago. A beautiful cave-babe walks by and you're hooked. You chat her up, telling her about the sabretooth you bagged last week. She's interested, and tells you to call her sometime, which actually requires finding a big rock from which to scream. But when do you do it? Tonight? Tomorrow? A week from now? Oonga boonga. What did you get yourself into? A million years later, there you sit, staring ... Read More ...

The makeup conundrum: do men prefer women with, or without makeup? Find out what some of our male visitors said. "Makeup is used to enhance beauty, not create it." "To see a woman's beauty you need to see her first thing in the morning. It's very sexy." "I prefer natural sometimes and some makeup at others. It's nice to not have someone made up all the time, because then you don't come to expect it, but it is nice to have them made up once in a while just to compliment their looks on occasion." "I prefer the natural look ... Read More ...

A 10-step program for Gals Be on time. I don't care what magazine you read it in, there is no such thing as "Fashionably Late." As soon as you're more than 30 seconds late, he will start to panic that he's been stood up. And if he's picking you up, do you really want him sitting in the living room with your Dad, sister, or roommate for 20 minutes? That's just long enough for the stories to start. Be aware. If you're going to wear something revealing, know before you leave your bedroom that he WILL notice your ample cleavage ... Read More ...

Question When a guy tells me that he loves me how can I know if he is just saying it so that I will have sex with him? If I have sex with a guy who doesn't really love me, but says he does, how will he act afterwards? ~ Kim Kwame's Answer: Kim, This is a tough one to answer because I don't know you or your fella. But by and large, this is an issue of trust and common sense. If you've only been on four dates, and he's saying he loves you, it's very likely that he ... Read More ...

In a recent survey of almost 200 men, we asked the question: "What is the first thing you notice when you look at a woman?" Here are the results 53 Respondents: Her eyes 33 Respondents: Her smile / Her mouth 32 Respondents: Her body 15 Respondents: Her hair 14 Respondents: Her apparent level of self-confidence  3 Respondents: Her clothes  2 Respondents: Her skin ... Read More ...

In an episode of Ally McBeal, Ally's roommate, Renee (played by Lisa Nicole Carson) eyes a handsome attorney, motions with her finger for him to approach, hands him a business card and says, "Call me." While at her apartment, he gets too aggressive, and Renee fends him off by demonstrating her kick-boxing skills. He requires a trip to the hospital, and Renee, a deputy district attorney, faces assault charges. Renee is a master (mistress might be a better word) of flirtation, but, unfortunately, she sends the wrong message by being too forward. In real life, women use body language to ... Read More ...

There are many different things one can do to romance a guy, but do you want to know what makes us tick? What really gets our engines purring? We love, and I repeat, LOVE to feel needed. It's really that simple. The fact that others need us gives us purpose for living. Men like to feel, as most people do, special and valuable to others. When things need to be done, like your car being washed, or a can needing to be opened, let him do it (even if you really are strong enough to open it yourself). When he ... Read More ...