For some reason or other, most men feel like there needs to be some special way to ask a woman for her phone number. As a dating coach, I get asked all the time by men all sorts of questions about the proper etiquette and rules of asking for a woman's phone number. Here are some typical ones: How long must you talk to a woman before you can ask for her phone number? Are there certain places where you should ask a woman for her number? Are there places you can't (or shouldn't) ask a woman for her phone ... Read More ...

One of the most prevalent themes of questions I receive has to do with how EXACTLY to "be masculine". Inherently, most of us---men and women alike---suspect that the diametric opposite personas of "Mr. Nice Guy" and the "Bad Boy" can't be the only possible choices when it comes to slotting guys according to their general demeanor. But based on what you tend to read nowadays, you'd think that was the case. Well, by now you know that I spend a lot of time talking about the concept of being a GREAT MAN. He is not a neuter, wussified "Mr. Nice ... Read More ...

Derek,I met this hottie at a bar and we chatted for a few minutes. Things were going well and we were really clicking fast so I asked her for her phone number. She gave it to me? Two days later I called her back, but no answer. The next day I called her again and she picked up? but her end of the conversation was stiff and it seemed like she was blowing me off. Derek, what happened? At the bar she seemed interested. Where did I do wrong? Raz - - - A lot of guys think that once ... Read More ...

Make sure at least once this week you tell her that who she is, her basic core, is what you adore. Take her in your arms and tell her how much value she has as a human being. Comment on what you like about her personality. Reinforce her capabilities. Notice the little things she does for you and tell her that you appreciate them. Write her a love letter this week. Tell her how much she means to you. Review some wonderful moments you have shared with her. Send it through the mail; it's more romantic that way. Praise her ... Read More ...

I gave serious thought to naming this week's bit "The Selfish Man's Guide To Success With Women". After all, that's really a fitting title. But the problem is that nobody wants to be cast as "selfish", do they? Of course not. Yet, the truth is that if you didn't spend considerable time attending to your own needs and wants, you would be in no condition to make a philanthropic dent on society, would you? Anyone who has ever bought a commercial airline ticket and used it has heard a flight attendant's pitch to deploy one's own oxygen mask before assisting ... Read More ...

Notice I have purposefully avoided the term ?bachelor pad? here. That?s for good reason. That expression conjures up immediate visions of complete, utter cheesiness. And if you expect to invite women over at any point (which I trust is a given) the last thing you want your place to be as a single man is cheesy. OK, maybe that?s second-from-last. The very last thing you want your place to be is dirty. And you can take that anyway you?d like, because no matter what you are thinking you are understanding me perfectly. Interestingly, I?ve had numerous guys (and some women) ... Read More ...

Hey guys. Do you ever wonder how the seduction guys do it? How do they have such Incredible Confidence With Women when some of them are just down right ugly and fat? Confidence has little to nothing to do with looks. Confidence comes from the inside. Our readers are always making comments like, "You say to have confidence, but that's not so easy for me. How exactly do I get this confidence that you speak of?" Once you know the secret, you'll wonder why you didn't figure it out on your own... Our definition of confidence is simply "not caring ... Read More ...

As a single young woman, I find myself in the dating arena fairly often and despite all the calls to arms for equality, I'm always most struck by the men who retain that oh-so-desirable and yet oh-so-elusive quality of gentlemanliness. Here are 5 ways to be a gentleman on a date without being labeled a Neanderthal; Pick Her Up. Whether you're on your bike, walking, taking the subway, riding in a cab or being chauffeured in a limousine ? pick her up. It's a nice thing to do. If she'd rather meet you and is fairly insistent on it, then ... Read More ...

Most guys make their biggest mistakes either on the first date or before they even get there. Here are 5 basic tips for dating success that'll take you to that second date. Keep your cards close. Whether it's on the first date or before, keep your personal secrets to yourself. You barely know this woman and now is not the time to be spilling your heart out. She's not your therapist, so let her get to like you before she sees the 'dark side,' or at the very least your video game collection. Ask first. You're not going to get ... Read More ...

Sexual tension is paramount in any interaction with a woman. It is the energy, or charge of the interaction. Its application is subtle, but powerful. There are many different conceptualizations of sexual tension floating around in the seduction community. Some examples of these are cocky bantering and flirting, explicit sexual interest paired with false barriers, using the word "sexy" to convey a sexual intent, and of course the old Speed Seduction route - complex language patterns intended to implant sexual thoughts in a woman's mind. Some of these techniques are better than others, and can definitely improve the quality and ... Read More ...

First, stand or sit a few feet away from a woman or group of women and seem to be having a light-hearted, joking disagreement with your pal. ?You?re wrong!? ?No, you are!? ?I?m telling you, you don?t know what you?re talking about!? Then keep talking, but a little quieter so that the girl probably won?t hear, then say, ?Fine by me!? Remember, don?t act really angry, act like a couple of friends jokingly disputing a small thing. Now, go up to the woman you like (if she?s with a friend, either your buddy can try to pick up her friend ... Read More ...

We've all done it at one time or another. We whine to our friends about the lack of nice available guys, and then, when given the choice between a nice, sweet (safe) guy and a bad boy who makes our toes curl, we invariably go for the toe-curler. The heartbreak-waiting-to-happen. The bad boy. Doesn't make any sense, does it? I recently received a letter from a sweet guy who wrote, "I've been looking for some insights to what women are looking for, because from my perspective, they often go for that which they complain about most! Got any advice for ... Read More ...

I have been utterly useless with women in the past. Having spent many years of my youthful life failing with women, I decided to make a change. Now after years of learning, trial and error, reading books, and development I have become successful in becoming attractive with women and dating. In fact I even coach men one on one in the ?field? like the real life version of Hitch. What follows is dating advice that works: Dating Advice 1: The first 3-4 dates are very important. Dating is like a game. If you play it right, you should have been ... Read More ...

Sometimes men meet women their attracted to but don?t have the right tools to engage them, resulting in a lost connection. As an author and dating coach to hundreds of men and women throughout the years I?ve discovered the 10 following ways of behaving and relating that will ensure a mans ability to captivate and keep a woman's interest. Don't... Don?t push sex so much Most women find men who talk about sex when they?re first starting to date obnoxious. If you keep trying to talk about sex, you just end up looking desperate and sexually hungry. Like you never ... Read More ...

You've been out with a woman a couple of times, and you're crazy about her. You want her to be crazy about you, too. Here's the plan: Invite her to your place for dinner. Casually explain to her, though, that you have to get up early the next morning. (It works best if you actually do have to get up early. If you don't, arrange to go to the gym before work. It's best not to lie.) Cook for her. You've heard it said that the quickest way to a man's heart is through his stomach. Well, I've got news. ... Read More ...

Keeping yourself from becoming a ?friend? to the woman of your attraction can be a tough thing, but if you know what you?re doing, you?ll never have problems with it again. Follow a few steps to arouse her, and she?ll be wanting it as badly as you. Our Favorite Par Ahh, finally. Here it is, the chapter half of you skipped to first because you couldn?t help yourself, the PHYSICAL chapter. This chapter isn?t the be-all end-all. In fact, it?s barely the beginning. But if you?ve ever had problems with the ?just friends? syndrome, few instructions on this earth will ... Read More ...

You know it?s not that important ? but it still counts for something. Let?s take a moment to talk about what you should do to make yourself look good. First Impression? A lot of people would think you?d talk about appearance first off ? after all, it?s the first thing you see, your first impression, first everything starts at the skin. I hope you?re not one of them anymore. As you probably remember, much more important (and equally instantaneous) is body language. If you?re ugly as sin?s deformed sister you can still overcome that with the way you carry yourself. ... Read More ...

If we're being honest, there's nothing quite as intimidating as having to meet the parents of your girlfriend for the first time. Your performance will be judged and this first impression of you will color their opinion of you for some time, fairly or unfairly. A great first impression can mean smooth sailing. If things don't quite go as planned (or hoped) then you will have to depend on time to wear away that first impression and replace it with a more accurate portrait of who you are. Here are some tips on making that first encounter a good experience ... Read More ...

These days my email box is jammed full with letters from men asking for advice on how to attract women. Being a woman myself, I'm a bit on the fence as far as revealing the chick's club secret code, but as an eternal optimist when it comes to love and relationships, I'll do whatever I can to get everybody happily coupled up. So guys, this month it's your turn. Below you'll find some a combination of my favorite make-her-toes-curl moves, as well as some fun tidbits from the thousands of women who write to me, telling me what they look ... Read More ...

It happens to everyone ? a destructive pattern sets in, and you struggle to get out of it. Habits are some of the strongest emotional forces we humans have to deal with, and successfully breaking bad ones is one of the most difficult tasks. But the job can be made easier: eliminate your old anchors and triggers, watch for thought-habit creep, and start fresh. Always being new Have you ever spent some time traveling? Apart from the usual excitement and interesting things, what is special about your MINDSET? Ok, you could argue for a few things, but for me, there?s ... Read More ...