I gave serious thought to naming this week's bit "The Selfish Man's Guide To Success With Women". After all, that's really a fitting title. But the problem is that nobody wants to be cast as "selfish", do they? Of course not. Yet, the truth is that if you didn't spend considerable time attending to your own needs and wants, you would be in no condition to make a philanthropic dent on society, would you? Anyone who has ever bought a commercial airline ticket and used it has heard a flight attendant's pitch to deploy one's own oxygen mask before assisting ... Read More ...

Ah, a first date. The sweaty palms, the nervous ticks, the silent prayer that you don't end up with something in your teeth. Nothing can be quite as unsettling as trying to impress a person on a first try. The reason for this is simple: you're afraid you'll say the wrong thing or - even worse - have nothing to say at all. Yes, an uncomfortable silence can turn a date sour in no time flat. Because of the fear of this, people on first dates often exhibit a sense of unrest, and a desperation to keep the conversation going ... Read More ...

What would you do in the following situation? You are on a date with a new person. You feel like you are in the hot seat because this person is attentive and asking you lots of questions. You're trying to make a good impression, you want to put your best foot forward and you may be required to answer, or at least be asked, some questions you'd rather not discuss. How do you handle this? Let's go through a multiple choice! Choice A: (This really isn't a choice it's a reaction to being put on the spot and it happens ... Read More ...

It has been eight months or so since that fateful springtime morning when I opened my inbox to find a "nice" message from a young woman somewhere in Canada. The missive was a simple one, reading: "You understand women better than most women do. It's like you are The Chick Whisperer, or something." Obviously, that particularly catchy phrase soon became the name of the podcast for men that we already had in the planning stages. But is this really some sort of special or even downright supernatural gift that I have? Nah, understanding MOTOS (Members Of The Opposite Sex) is ... Read More ...

Notice I have purposefully avoided the term ?bachelor pad? here. That?s for good reason. That expression conjures up immediate visions of complete, utter cheesiness. And if you expect to invite women over at any point (which I trust is a given) the last thing you want your place to be as a single man is cheesy. OK, maybe that?s second-from-last. The very last thing you want your place to be is dirty. And you can take that anyway you?d like, because no matter what you are thinking you are understanding me perfectly. Interestingly, I?ve had numerous guys (and some women) ... Read More ...

There are certain men who crave adventure in their relationships and also in their lives. This is the craving to be challenged, grow and become all they are capable of. For some the call comes in connection to work, sports or feats of daring; others hear it in relationship to women, who they see as their primary challenge. This need for adventure in relationship can manifest in various ways. Some men are drawn to disturbed and disturbing women. They find this exciting and stimulating, despite the difficulties that come along. Also, they can then use this as an excuse for ... Read More ...

Why are some people born natural flirts and others couldn't charm the backside of a bus if their life depended on it? The power of flirting goes beyond attracting the opposite sex. Master the art of flirting and you also become a friend magnet and can use your skills to influence business relationships. "You've either got it or you haven't!" is often what you will hear men saying when they boast about their conquests. Women, on the other hand, are more coy when talking about a man they have met. So as not to appear full of herself, she will ... Read More ...

Cosmopolitan Magazine has a nifty column that provides relationship advice to women from the perspective of a man called Ask A Guy. A most recent column featured the question of a reader wanting to know whether a guy was interested in her. While, the inner workings of the male psyche may be a mystery to women, situations such as these are often self explanatory. It doesn't take a guy or even your girlfriends to tell you that he doesn't like you. The odds are if you have to ask, he probably just isn't that into you to paraphrase Greg Behrendt. ... Read More ...

So, women ask me all the time: "What are guys looking for in a woman?" Well, not really. But they're asking somebody. And I feel compelled to answer. Now, I'm not speaking for all guys, just the ones who are like me - the North American Average Joe. It's no mystery, ladies. I mean, you don't have to be Indiana Jones to find the answers. We're pretty simple creatures, often confused by complicated things like "feelings." Some will say guys want a hot bod. Others will say we're all looking for a mother figure. And another group subscribes to the ... Read More ...

You like him, he likes you so you decide to go out for a bite to eat. Now the problems start. Poor eating and etiquette habits turn off more people than almost anything else except personal hygiene. So here's the skinny on some of the most common dining dilemmas that couples encounter and how to work around them. Dining Dilemma 1: Where to go to eat? This of course has to do with who is doing the inviting, where you met the person and other considerations like if there are certain foods the other person can't eat. The best way ... Read More ...

Once you've piqued a man/woman's interest enough for him/her to be attracted to you, how do you keep him/her there? One way to enhance the attraction and keep his/her interest is play hard-to-get. Playing hard-to-get when done right is much more important than most people think, realize or are willing to admit. Mystery and elusiveness is fundamental to our very nature. God, the universe, the weather, human nature, male-female relationships are all examples of things that are beautiful, very real and so easy to see (or find) but so hard to figure out and pin down. We first become conscious ... Read More ...

Hey guys. Do you ever wonder how the seduction guys do it? How do they have such Incredible Confidence With Women when some of them are just down right ugly and fat? Confidence has little to nothing to do with looks. Confidence comes from the inside. Our readers are always making comments like, "You say to have confidence, but that's not so easy for me. How exactly do I get this confidence that you speak of?" Once you know the secret, you'll wonder why you didn't figure it out on your own... Our definition of confidence is simply "not caring ... Read More ...

Do you know what kind of person would make you happy? What qualities would you want someone you would want to marry have? As human beings, we all respond to certain gestures and behaviors positively. This dating advice for women and men is to describe which qualities you need to have on your radar screen when you are searching for a partner with whom you can have long term bliss. Keep in mind the following relationship issues as you evaluate someone as a "Motivated to Marry" Partner. Offers you genuine friendship Everyone wants someone who can be their best friend ... Read More ...

Today's dating tips for men and women are designed to help you know when you have found the right "Motivated to Marry" partner. Let's say that Nancy is 38 and has been dating Barry for a year now and is wondering if he is the one for her. She would like to be married with a family and is starting to think about if she should break up with Barry. My advice is that if she isn't sure, then it is not right. This is why. Of the couples I have interviewed, they expressed having these signs about their mates ... Read More ...

As a single young woman, I find myself in the dating arena fairly often and despite all the calls to arms for equality, I'm always most struck by the men who retain that oh-so-desirable and yet oh-so-elusive quality of gentlemanliness. Here are 5 ways to be a gentleman on a date without being labeled a Neanderthal; Pick Her Up. Whether you're on your bike, walking, taking the subway, riding in a cab or being chauffeured in a limousine ? pick her up. It's a nice thing to do. If she'd rather meet you and is fairly insistent on it, then ... Read More ...

Most guys make their biggest mistakes either on the first date or before they even get there. Here are 5 basic tips for dating success that'll take you to that second date. Keep your cards close. Whether it's on the first date or before, keep your personal secrets to yourself. You barely know this woman and now is not the time to be spilling your heart out. She's not your therapist, so let her get to like you before she sees the 'dark side,' or at the very least your video game collection. Ask first. You're not going to get ... Read More ...

Well, if you've ever read an online dating profile anywhere, you've invariably seen some version of today's Phrase Of The Day in there somewhere. This can come in the form of, "No Games!" or "I am sick of playing games!" or "I do not play games, and won't put up with it", among others. Having read this phrase a few hundred times, I got a bright idea. I started asking people what they meant by that. The conversations, predictably, went about like this: Me: So you say you don't want to "play games". What are "games", exactly? They: Uh?you know?"games". ... Read More ...

Sexual tension is paramount in any interaction with a woman. It is the energy, or charge of the interaction. Its application is subtle, but powerful. There are many different conceptualizations of sexual tension floating around in the seduction community. Some examples of these are cocky bantering and flirting, explicit sexual interest paired with false barriers, using the word "sexy" to convey a sexual intent, and of course the old Speed Seduction route - complex language patterns intended to implant sexual thoughts in a woman's mind. Some of these techniques are better than others, and can definitely improve the quality and ... Read More ...

When two people are seeing each other and one isn?t quite ?feelin? it?, the other is invariably about to get the ?Just Be Friends? talk. This, of course, is assuming we?re not dealing with desperate, clingy people who would rather ?settle? than be confronted with having to meet someone else. And ?nice guys? everywhere universally dread the ?JBF?, as inevitable as it ends up being much of the time when a woman?s femininity fails to be ignited. But there is a place even more dreadful than the ?JBF? zone. Dreadful, yet oftentimes completely ignored as even a remote possibility by ... Read More ...

Going out with someone has enough stress associated with it that no one wants to worry about doing math at the meal. Besides the most important question on your mind, (does my date like me and do I still like them), your mind is also now consumed with tipping questions like how much of a tip should I leave? Also, did I tip everyone I was supposed to tip? The questions add up quicker than the bill in some cases. Following are the answers to these questions and a few others you may run into when you are out dining ... Read More ...